10 Tips for Singles to Survive and Thrive on Valentine’s Day

Do you feel all alone and out of sorts on days like Valentine’s Day when you are not in a relationship?  Use these suggestions to reframe your experience and set the stage for what you want to attract for yourself.  Here are 10 things you can do to make it a great day for you.

 

1.   Spend some time thinking of the loves you have known in the past.  Are you holding any anger or grudges towards them?  If so, spend some time releasing those feelings.  Write a letter of forgiveness to the person, which you can choose to send or not.  Be open and willing to forgive.  Forgiveness gets you off the hook and frees you from a toxic bond that keeps you stuck in attachment to that other person.  It doesn’t say what they did was okay, just that you aren’t going to hang on to feelings that are attached to the past and that hurt you more than the other person. 

     Forgiveness opens the door to your heart and creates a space and loving emotional
     tone.
 

2.  Spend at least 5 minutes a day in front of the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself, exactly as you are now.  To attract a healthy, loving relationship we must love ourselves first. 

 

3.  Think about the people that are part of your world that could use some extra attention and affection because they are alone.  Is there someone you know that you could call and say I love you?  Or send them a card?  Giving what you want to receive sets the Law of Reciprocity in motion.

 

4.  Set an intention to have a loving day and to participate as fully as you possibly can in loving rituals.  Be your own valentine for the day.   What would you want to receive today - flowers, chocolates, and a loving card?  Buy them for yourself! 

     Create as much as possible the Valentine’s Day you would want to have if you were in a relationship.  That’s telling the universe what you intend to have in your life and gets you into the feeling level of the goal, which is a key way to attract what you desire.

 

5.  Celebrate with a friend.  It is much more fun to be in the spirit of the day than to stay home feeling sorry for yourself.  Ask one or more friends to go out and do something special with you.

6.  Dress up.  Act as though you are going on a date.  You are, only it is with yourself!  Dress, do your hair and make-up as if you were going out with the person of your dreams.  If you treat yourself with this loving attention, you will feel the excitement of the day and that will send you out in the right frame of mind to have a great time.

 

7.  When you are at the restaurant or wherever you have chosen to go, notice the couples and bask in all the love that is being expressed.  Soak it in and let it permeate you and keep you open to it.  It will remind you of what you desire and give you concrete evidence that it is possible to have.  Maybe you are not part of a couple today, but you could be tomorrow and this will help you be ready.

 

8.  Be grateful for all the people you love now or have in the past -your friends, family and loved ones.  Appreciation opens our hearts, puts us in a very positive frame of mind and says a great big “Thank you” to the universe.  Appreciation means “to increase in value” and we are much more likely to receive our heart’s desire when we appreciate what we do have.

 

9.   Use today to recommit to what you really want in a relationship.  Make a list of all the qualities that are important to you in a partner.  Write out ten to thirty qualities or so and then read them over each day to remind you of what you intend to attract.  Give thanks that this person is on the way to you.

 

10. Now spend some time visualizing yourself in a relationship with this ideal person.
 What would it feel like to be in this relationship?  What activities would you like to
do?  If you would be living together, what is your home like?   What’s your favorite restaurant?  See yourself having a romantic candlelight dinner with your man or woman.  What are you eating?  What are you wearing?  What places would you go? 

 

     Get in touch with whatever sensory experiences you can create.  Perhaps there’s a cologne or perfume that you enjoy.  Smell that.  What does it feel like to walk hand-in-hand or to be held in the arms of this person? 

 

     This process of visualizing and acting “as if” is another tool to create the life of your dreams. 

Revised 2008 Rosemary Heenan

Are you holding back from trying again because your heart was wounded?  Do you believe all the good ones are married or there’s no one out there for you?  Heart Power coaching will help you release the past and open your heart to love again.

Contact me at rosemary@rosemaryheenan.com to see how you can benefit from Heart Power Coaching.

Rosemary Heenan  The Heart Activist

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About the Author:

Rosemary Heenan, The Heart Activist, is a certified coach whose life purpose is to work with people who think of themselves as healers.  Heart Power Coaching assists you in re-opening your heart, living with passion and attracting your heart’s desires.

 
Rosemary has been a college professor of early childhood education for 31 years.  Her ebooks, The Eight Keys to Creating the Life of Your Dreams and Attract a Loving Relationship are available for purchase at http://www.rosemaryheenan.com 

 
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The Manifesting Power of Appreciation

As a follow up to the article on “When You Find What You Want Inside You, You Will  Find What You Want Outside You” I wrote a couple of weeks ago, I’d like to share some miracles I have received.  I believe they came as a direct result of expressing appreciation for all that is.

I began a gratitude journal again last week and have been writing at least five things in it each night.  Last week I had a minor car collision that I was responsible for.  I had to pay for repairing the damages to the other car.

I’ve heard that when we have what seems to be problems with too much money going out, if we affirm “I can hardly wait to see what good God has in store for me now” we will attract to us more money than we are having to pay.

I decided to put this to the test and began affirming it over and over.  As you can imagine, I also had some negative emotions and fears and I used EFT and Ho’oponopono to release those.  I was determined to not let this experience throw me off course in keeping my attention focused on my desired outcomes and not the present reality.

I had planned to attend an Advance Energy workshop being put on by a healer I know and love in Toronto next weekend.  When I saw what the repairs would cost, I called and told the host that I would not be able to attend.  I released on the outcome and kept affirming, “I can hardly wait to see what good God has in store for me.”  A couple of days after I had cancelled, I received a call from another of the hosts asking if I would attend as a scribe.  I can go to the workshop and take notes for them and attend at no charge.

Wow!  That was a huge and most welcome surprise.  It taught me that by expecting good, I allowed it to come to me.

My miracles didn’t end there.  A friend I work with invited me to his home yesterday for a visit and to hear about the business he is doing.  We decided to attend a psychic fair and he was happy to have someone willing to go with him.  When I went over, he gave me some money to spend at the fair, treated me to the entrance fee and also bought me a beautiful massage wand.  After the fair, he took me out for a lovely dinner.  I had brought him some gifts and read his fingerprints for him, and truly enjoyed sharing the day with him.

As I drove home I reflected on his joy in giving me those treats and how much I appreciated them.  I gave him a gift by being open to receive and his pleasure was evident.  I had the same experience in sharing my gifts with him.  That reminded me of one of Bijan’s Effortless Prosperity daily lessons, “I Give As I Receive”. 

Do you remember how much joy you feel when you gave a gift and you could see how much the person receiving loved it?  That’s the meaning of Bijan’s lesson.  When we receive, we give back our joy and appreciation and the donor receives those and is blessed.

Another word for appreciation is increase.  Whatever we appreciate expands.  I invite you to join me in keeping a gratitude journal and trusting that God, or the Universe, has great blessings in store for those who appreciate all they have.  Remember to affirm and expect great good when you have unexpected expenditures.  You’re going to spend the money anyway, why not prove that it’s opening a door and flooding you with gifts.

About the Author:

Rosemary Heenan, the Healer with Heart, is a certified coach whose life purpose is to work with people who think of themselves as healers.  Through her coaching, you will reclaim your essential power, live your life with passion, and share your gifts with the world. 

Rosemary has been a college professor of early childhood education for 31 years.  Her e-books, The Eight Keys to Creating the Life of Your Dreams and Attract a Loving Relationship are available for purchase at http://www.rosemaryheenan.com
 
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When You Find What You Want Inside You, You Will Find What You Want Outside You

This morning’s daily message from Alan Cohen was this:

Take time this week to look within.  When you find what you want inside you, you will find what you want outside. 

-   Alan  Cohen                                                                                                            --

I thought this was a perfect way to look at reviewing 2007 and setting goals and intentions for 2008.

What do you desire for yourself in 2008?  Write down your intentions for 2008.  Take each one and determine what you would need to find inside yourself for that to manifest.  What beliefs and behaviours will create your desired results?

You will never have in the external world what you do not have in your internal world.  The external is always an out-picturing of the internal.  To ensure results, your work will be to make the changes on the inside that will allow and match your desires.

Greater balance in your life, financial freedom, a loving relationship with your ideal partner, a healthy, fit and trim body are common goals.

Now look at what internal conditions you would have to have for these external goals to manifest.

Greater balance seems to require knowing what you value and setting a priority on those, then disciplining yourself to schedule these into your week.  Commitment to following that schedule would also be essential.  Recognize and honour your needs for relationships, work, spiritual and mental activity, physical exercise and rest.

Financial freedom may call on your courage to take your work to a greater audience.  You may also need persistence in honing your skills to a new level of excellence.   Some of you will need to educate yourself on how to invest or budget.  Others will have to work on shifting your internal beliefs about deserving financial abundance.

To attract and maintain a loving relationship you have to love yourself enough to allow someone loving in your life.  Maybe your skills at interacting could improve to take your love relationship to its next level.  Committing to spending quality time with your loved one may be your internal shift.

Loving yourself enough to eat foods that are healthy for you in the right amounts, and to exercise in ways you enjoy will create that fit, trim and healthy body in 2008.

When you care enough about yourself to lovingly give yourself what you most need, and you believe you deserve to have whatever you desire, you’ll find following your resolutions easier.  Your attention on loving care expands and will attract to you what is best for you.

Trying to follow a diet and exercise because you think you’re too fat and lazy puts your focus on fat on lazy; merely bringing on more fat and laziness.

Imagine how great you’ll feel at this time next year when you have found what you desire both inside and out.

I wish you all the joy, peace, love and prosperity you deserve in 2008.

Warmest regards,

Rosemary   Heenan

 

A while ago I realized that I could do, do, do, and get nowhere in increasing my abundance.  I started to look for different ways to increase my prosperity and found that I had to release negative beliefs I had picked up while growing up from family, friends and teachers.  Some I acquired from mass media and just being a member of this society.

I'm getting great results from using the Emotional Freedom Technique, Ho'opononpono and The Work.

I'd love to connect with others in Zaadz who have used these an other tools and would like to share information and support each other.

Please contact me and let's set up a conversation.

Warmest regards,
Rosemary Heenan